PRACTICAL WAYS TO LIVE A BETTER LIFE

* Listen to the promptings of the heart,a little More,and listen to the complains of the Mind a little less. * Value inner peace above all other desires,if we have inner peace we will be content no matter how many material possessions we have. * Be a good listener,dont always talk about yourself * Dont expect from other people,if you expect from other people you will be disappointed at some time. * Be willing to do things without recognition its only d ego that wnts recognition * Think of others more than you think of yourself,self-givin is the secret of happiness. * Avoid acting or speaking when angry or upset. * Be tolerant of others,people are trying their own way to do the right thing * Dont try and do two things at once.if you are with someone,give your whole attention to them;dont be planning how to pay your rent or bills * Dont try to impress others,there is no need. * Dont b jealous,feel other people's success as your own * If you make a mistake,dont dwell on it.Resolve not to repeat it,then forget about it. * Dont be inflexible,be willing to change * Keep fit dont neglect the body,being active helps to avoid lethargy and boredom * Dont count your happiness through material accomplishments. HAPPINESS IS EVERYONES BIRTHRIGHT NO MATTER OUR OUTER PROSPERITY. * Love what you do even if it is the smallest action * Do not give up see obstacles as opportunity to transcend yourself * Spend sometime in solitude for reflection and meditation * Live in the present moment.the past is gone,d future is not yet here,and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment we cannot b in touchwith life......Thich Nhat. * Do not feel you are indispensable.this create feelings of pride * Replace a negative thought with positive thoughts * Smile * Be patient with yourself and understand others * Value the beauty of simplicity * If something is worthdoing,it is worth doing NOW,dont delay and procastinate * Never underestimate the beauty and powerof gratitude.

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The author of this article has been divorced herself and gone through countless number of relationships that have not worked, she efinitely knows what mistakes to avoid to make the relationship work. Below are some of the mistakes she’s made and her clients have made that you should avoid: 1. You ignore issues as a couple. This is probably the worst thing you can do. Sticking your head in the sand around the issues you may have in your relationship is not the way to go. The unexpressed feelings will slowly but surely start eating away at you, and over a period of time, what seemed like small annoyances will transform into massive resentments. And then before you know it, you’re hating your partner because you cannot put up with it anymore. I know this very well, as I have been there myself. Before my divorce, this is the exact state of denial that led to the demise of our relationship. I did not know how to express how I was feeling and my ex- husband simply didn’t want to hear it. The problem got bigger and bigger, and before we knew it, we stopped trusting one another and the relationship broke down completely. Instead, deal with issues as they come up. Just like when you clean your home, if you keep dusting away the cobwebs, you will create a consistently clean environment. 2. You don’t work on the relationship. Somehow, we seem to think intimate relationships will run on their own fuel without putting much effort into them. This is simply not true! A relationship needs work — just as a car needs fine-tuning. At the very least, understand how relationships work; and at the very most, work on yourself and what you bring to the relationship. Healthy and fulfilling relationships happen from the inside out. I made this mistake and paid dearly for it. I kept wanting to change my ex-husband, thinking he was the problem, when in fact, it was me all along! Work on you first; learn about how relationships work and the rest will follow. 3. You don’t learn how to effectively communicate. As I’ve already mentioned, good communication is one of the cornerstones of creating a fulfilling relationship. However, there’s a right way to fight and a wrong way to fight. Resorting to “blame and shame” tactics will destroy any trust you’ve built and while it’s a normal defense mechanism, all it does is result in the attacked spouse shutting down. In my first marriage, I used this tactic all the time, which only caused heartache and disconnection. Learn to communicate clearly, listen intently and give yourself the time and space to do so safely. If not, divorce will be imminent. 4. You don’t spend enough time together. One of the other cornerstones to any successful relationship is giving yourself the time to connect with one another. If you are not giving yourself the time to do this, then you will feel disconnected and distant. This is also one of the biggest errors I made in my own marriage. Before I knew it, my ex-husband and I were completely disconnected and were living parallel lives, which exacerbated our differences as opposed to highlighting our similarities. Go for walks together, put time in your calendar for a date night, go away without cell phones together. Talk, laugh and above all, create memories if you want to avoid going down the rocky road of divorce. 5. You don’t delegate jobs. Living with another person can drive us insane. Messy people end up marrying neat people and unhealthy people marry healthy people. Whatever the scenario, there are going to be guaranteed differences in how two people live. What ends up happening is one person in a relationship feels resentful about the fact that they had to carry the load in their relationship. For example, arguments about cleaning used to happen regularly in my household. Now, we just delegate the work to someone who loves doing it! She gets what she wants and we do too. Does it cost money? Sure it does. Does it save us time and arguments? Yes, and we’ll end up saving on divorce bills too. To avoid going down the rocky road of divorce, you will need to confront the brutal facts, learn to communicate properly, work on the relationship, spend time together and delegate the jobs you don’t want to do to someone that does. It may sound like a lot of work, but it beats the heartbreak of signing divorce papers. Source: Huffington Post

Have you ever known a girl you felt is the right woman for you? Everything seems perfect, except for one thing, she does not feel the same way you do and she wastes no time in telling it to you? well, I would be letting you know how to handle this kind of situation if you are in one or you ever find yourself in one in the future. You see, women have far more insecurities than men do and so they intelligently let their systems adapt to these insecurities by creating defense mechanisms to protect themselves from our world’s many insecurities. Having said this, it is quite possible that this woman you have feelings for could be playing a game, ‘testing’ on you in some way, building herself into some sort of challenge and making you fight for her, or she could honestly and candidly not share your feelings and is not the type that beats around the bush but maybe, still enjoys your friendship. However the case may be, the best decision you can make for yourself is to walk away. Huh? Did you hear me say “walk away”? No bro, you want me to send it to your email address? Of course, you should walk away. Say a huge ‘NO’ to her friendship proposal and move on with your life. She obviously likes you, for her to still want to be your friend and I bet the reason is ‘cuz she thinks you are a really ‘nice’ guy but you have to remind yourself that you are the man and as the man, you make the rules (at least I think so). Personally, I think being ‘friends’ with a woman you are attracted to does more harm than good, if it does any good at all. It puts her in control and trust me, women don’t like to be in control, I mean, they crave authority especially if it is over a man, but a woman can hardly stand a man she can control. More so, staying away gives her the opportunity to ‘miss you’. No, no, no, no, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you should not follow your heart or whatever phrase you described being friend-zoned by the woman you have feelings for, I am just saying that you should look at your options, critically. Weigh them… Learn their benefits and consequences, then, my dear friend, you are good to go.' A wise man wrote in a book, ” Use your absence to increase respect and honor”. think about it. *wink*